Have you even heard of an instance where a teacher was taken to task for failing to use students' preferred pronouns? I mean a well-intentioned teacher who respects their students is making an honest effort, not the outlier who outright refused.

As for parents, they absolutely have the right to know what their kids are reading. They should know, and they should be discussing those books with their kids. The list is there for everyone to see. Besides, kids' participation is likely to require some assistance from parents unless they're old enough to drive. 

As for sexuality and gender types, you don't have to keep a running list. You just have to understand that bodies and psyches don't always follow the textbooks, and acknowledge that if the best and brightest in the scientific community don't have all the answers regarding sexuality and gender, neither do you. 

There's no simple definition for "social justice" or easy answer for how to mete it out. But these articles provide some good insights, I think:

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